Roses, Rainbows and the Valley of Despair

Our blog this month comes from Ava Rajah. Ava works for the NHS. and is an SCF member. She comes originally from Southern Africa, now residing in the UK. Sadly, Ava saw her marriage '"cut short" last year and she has a heart to reach other similar women through God's direction.

It’s easy to tell someone else to be hopeful and optimistic in their tragedy when your own life is filled with sunshine and beaming with happiness.

But when devastation hits our lives, rather quickly, emotions of anger, despair, pain, loss, grief, and so on are exposed.

 

When God takes you to the edge, He will do one of two things. He will catch you as you fall; or He will teach you how to fly. Personally, I would rather learn how to fly, but we must fall first before we can fly.

The gist of my blog is about finding hope and being thankful, no matter what.  Said in the same sentence, it seems too painful to bear, especially if your glowing, happy world is turned upside down, inside out and shaken to the core.  You may even be saying as you are reading this, "How do you know?"

"Because of the LORD’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness." (Lamentations 3:22-23)

This is not about my story, but I have been through my own valley of despair and I sometimes ask God, “What is the point You are trying to make, or the lesson You are trying to teach me through this?”  My “valley of despair” blew my ideas out of the water and tested the very foundation of my faith, but it also placed me with an opportunity to pursue the heart of God.  Just the beginning, and glimpses of how I have encountered Him in such an extraordinary way has given me the chance to comprehend what “trusting God” actually means.

Only Christ offers hope.

  • Creating wish lists,
  • drafting plans,
  • arranging agendas,
  • making resolutions,

all of these become nothing unless we choose Christ as the centre, make prayer the wheel that turns our lives, and opt for a relationship with Christ as our first priority, unless we diligently study His word, inscribe His law in our thinking, and engrave His promises in our heart.  All else will fail.

"Who among the gods is like you, LORD? Who is like you — majestic in holiness, awesome in glory, working wonders?" (Exodus 15:11)

Sometimes we ask God to save us from our circumstances.
Instead, He is asking us to change our focus.
Sometimes we cry out to God to take away our pain.
Instead, He is crying out for us to cling to Him and feel His heartbeat.
Sometimes we are so overwhelmed with a “situation”, that we cannot see anything except our own grief.
Instead, God is trying to get our attention, to teach us how to lean on Him.

I often question, what is the purpose for which Christ allows us to be tested and tried?

Pink rosesMaybe it’s to find hope in Him alone, to be thankful despite the way things are, to make us stronger, to separate the wheat from the chaff, to compel us to depend on Him, to sink our roots into Him, to gain a new perspective, to learn to appreciate what He has given us, to appoint our calling, to create a miracle.  So that when it happens, there won’t be any doubt that it was HIM! Often what we ask God for is not what He gives. He sees the bigger picture of which we only know a part.

Often the prickly thorn produces tender roses (Ovid).  The thorn today will become a flower someday.  In hindsight, this is hard to swallow, but:

"My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts," says the LORD. "And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine." (Isaiah 55:8).

When life throws us hard blows it is difficult to find a reason to smile, let alone hope.  Even if you can’t or it seems too painful to, somewhere through the tears, the pain, remember that, after every storm, there will be a rainbow.

God’s promises to us are eternal, for He Himself has said,

"I will never leave you nor forsake you." So we may boldly say: "The LORD is my helper; I will not fear. What can man do to me?" (Hebrews 13:5-6.

When you’re in a situation you can’t fix, can’t change and can’t escape, trust God!  In doing this you will learn to find hope. Your adverse situation might be God’s perfect opportunity to go through doors only He can open.

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